When It hurts.

It's a funny thing, a theme that I've recognized in my running, that appears often in my life and was only able to articulate after I experienced it in my running:

There comes a point in every run when I realize that it is easier and less painful to keep running than it will be to stop.

If I am at this point, and I do stop, my heart rate is too high, and I feel a jolt of nausea, I become faint, and the degree of pain in my calves moves from dull to excruciating. That is a painful experience that I do not enjoy. I use the thought of this impending, truly painful experience, to motivate myself to continue running when I am feeling tired, or slightly pained. So, we have two very different types of pain: The pain of stopping, and the pain of continuing.

I once told someone that it hurts when I run. They were shocked. "It's not supposed to hurt is it? Why do you do it if you don't enjoy it?"

Running hurts. But hurting, and enjoying, are are not necessarily mutually exclusive. I'm not saying I'm a masochist. Well, maybe I am, maybe we all are, to an extent. I certainly do not enjoy the pain that comes with stopping. And, I don't necessarily enjoy the pain in my calves when I run. I do however, enjoy what the pain of continuing stands for.

The pain of continuing is a sign that I am pushing, hard. And I enjoy that. I enjoy the challenge. I enjoy the hardness.

More than that, I enjoy the consistency. I enjoy that it is always, without fail, difficult to run the way I do. The difficulty, the hardness, is constant, invariable and pervasive, and often, it's painful. But i the thought of the pain that comes with stopping, helps me to push through it. I always finish. And if I must stop, then that pain motivates me to push myself harder tomorrow.

The results are always instant if I have chosen to continue. I feel pain, but it's good pain. It's not the I was in love, and now I'm not; It hurts, so I know I'm growing, pain. It's the I ran 4 miles this morning and it hurts because I pushed myself as hard as I could, and it still hurts, so the only way to make that pain go away, is to run until it is more painful to stop, than it is to keep going.

In life, and in running, I enjoy the give and take of continuing. I give up a lot to continue. I give my time, my body, my mind, my sweat, sometimes my tears. I get pain, but I also get accomplishment, success...and from running, and running alone, a euphoria that I have yet to gain from any other source in my life.

Gym Guy

So...There's this guy.

That's usually a fun phrase, with a good story.

This was not so fun.

There's this guy. At the gym.

Let me provide some context:

I spend a lot of time at the gym. I run. Everyday. I can not, not, be in the gym for at least an hour every day--it's psychological, and physical. It's a challenge. And it's my time.

It's my time, so I don't have to worry about looking good. I can look terrible, and run 4 or 5 miles, and that makes me happy.

I am not the girl who goes to the gym to pick up guys. I am not the make-up donning, tight tank top wearing, high pony tailed, casually glistening, gym-doll.

I am focused.

I am in smelly running shorts and a sweat-soaked t-shirt, and a hat that serves the dual role of eliminating flyaway hair and keeping my face hidden, as it takes on an I'm-on-the-verge-of-hyperventilation flush that makes anyone nearby nervously await my collapse. I'm the girl who runs until her legs start shaking and sweat is actually puddling on the treadmill.

The gym is the place where I go to run. When I run I do not care about anything else but reaching the goal I've set for myself. I don't have the energy to care how red my face is, or how tired I look without makeup, or that the dark sweat stains under my arm pits are quickly working their way out to cover my entire t-shirt. I'm too out of breath to talk or make conversation--and that's the way I like it.

Recap: The gym is my time. I challenge myself. I'm not shimmering or glistening--I'm sweating. I'm literally soaking wet and I smell. I don't feel very cute, or girly. Which is fine, because it's only me.

WHY then, is the guy at the gym flirting with me.?

Not to state the obvious here, but really, this is not how it's supposed to work.

Oh...Hello, [You were talking to me? sorry i was too busy tripping off the treadmill to hear you] Yea, I miss the old gym too. [Did you seriously just interrupt my workout to ask where the locker room is?] Oh, my name? Yea, I see you here sometimes too. Yup, I'm here every morning, 6:30 am. Oh it's not that bad, you get in to a rhythm...[I feel like someone just sprayed me with a fire hose. That smell? I haven't washed these shorts all week, or it could be my sneakers because I don't like to wear socks when I run]...Yea, it's nice to meet you too--

Oh you want to keep talking to me...

[I don't normally look like this. Generally, I wear makeup, and dresses, and straighten my hair. In fact, it takes me a good hour and a half to look good enough to walk out the door. I try hard! Just not here]

Where do I live? I'm from NY. Oh you too? Small world...

[Am I panting? I did just get off the treadmill. Wipe your face with the towel. Not that hard, are you trying to take off skin?]

Ok, nice talking to you. See you next time. Bye.

People judge. It's ok. It's a neutral thing. It's what people do, and I don't have a problem with it.
(Except when there is value added, but that's a blog for another day.)

So

Here's my judgment: He's nice. point. He has big pecs. point. He has a masters. two points. Of course he was judging me too...Cringe...Like: Does she always sweat this much? Is something wrong with her face--sunburn? Is the stammering normal or can she not catch her breath?

Fast forward to next time: I see him in the gym, I'm walking around looking lost trying to find the ab machine that they've moved without letting anyone know, and of course he looks over. I smile, wave, and run. Forget the ab machine, I'm out of here.

Maybe I should have stayed and talked to him...but who likes talking in the middle of a workout?

Maybe I'll see him tomorrow. I'll be sure to do abs first.
[And, generally, the stammering thing is pretty standard.]